A three-minute self-reflection
Is your past showing up in your parenting?
Parenting can bring out reactions we never expected. Check the answer that feels most true right now. Don’t overthink it. There are no right or wrong answers, and nothing here is saved or sent anywhere.
1 of 10
My reaction to my child sometimes feels bigger than what just happened.
2 of 10
I hear myself saying things that sound like the adults who raised me.
3 of 10
Certain things my child does can set me off almost immediately.
Whining. Crying. Talking back. Ignoring me. Making a mess.
4 of 10
When my child is upset, I sometimes just need the crying, yelling, or behavior to STOP.
5 of 10
I have a hard time staying calm when my child is angry with me or tells me “no.”
6 of 10
After I lose my patience, I feel guilty about how I handled it.
7 of 10
I’m hard on myself when I don’t handle parenting the way I think I should.
8 of 10
After I lose my cool, I’m not always sure how to repair things with my child.
9 of 10
Sometimes I parent on autopilot and realize afterward, “That’s exactly what I said I wouldn’t do.”
10 of 10
I worry about passing parts of my childhood on to my own children.
What did you notice?
You don’t need to calculate a score. Look back at your answers.
Answer all ten and this part will point to what stood out for you.
This one stood out for you
If you checked Often or Very Often several times:There may be moments when something from your own story is getting activated alongside whatever is happening with your child.
This one stood out for you
If you checked Sometimes several times:You may already be noticing certain situations where your reactions don’t quite match the moment. Those are patterns worth paying attention to.
This one stood out for you
If you mostly checked Never or Rarely:That doesn’t mean you’ll never get triggered. It may mean these particular patterns aren’t showing up very strongly for you right now.
The point isn’t to get a “good” score.
The point is to notice.
One last question
What is one thing from the way you were raised that you do not want to pass on to your child?
This stays on your screen. It isn’t saved or sent anywhere.
You can’t change what happened to you.
But you can decide what gets passed on.
Want to understand what’s underneath your answers?
Parenting While Healing will help you recognize your triggers, understand where some of your reactions come from, know what to do in the moment, and repair with your child when you don’t get it right.
Module 1 is free.
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